A subscriber to the Hued flower on face book made a comment on a reblog regarding Paula Deen’s use of the N word. [http://blackwomenwhoknowtheirworth.wordpress.com/2013/06/25/193/] [https://www.facebook.com/TheHuedFlower]. Summing up her comment, she asked why the N word was being used as a term of endearment instead of saying I love you, or you are great.
This is something I am still trying to figure out myself, here’s why:
Some of us are offended, some of us are not depending or whether it be the N word with an A or ER at the end. However usually it’s the black people who are considered negropeans who have the problem with both terms opposed to those who embrace the worlds stereotype of who they are.
There’s an issue with both sides, or extremes I am pointing out.
The negropeans have a tendency to dislike much of the black culture and feel much of it is terrible without gaining any real understanding of the situation in its entirety. The situation being the way the system has been set up to leave many blacks without proper education, jobs, medical, food etc.. Oh and let’s not forget the prison system with its need for a 90% population at the expense of the black and poor. And to top that, many of them feel it’s the black mans own fault, but won’t try to help another black man. Sound familiar? Modern day house negro perhaps?
Then you have the black men and women who emulate what they see themselves as which is depicted more negatively than anything on the big screen, small screen, news, tv, internet, etc.. They do not approve of those who they say act white but still make attempts at having the material things that compensate for what they feel will make them appear classy or above another financially. They may hate on those they see as lighter skinned or not who act bourgeoisie because they feel or maybe witness them getting more than they do. Sound familiar? Modern day field negro perhaps?
If the only example of how to be is mainly focused on white people, that alone causes community division and leaves many lost when it comes to who they are. Even as the attention is on a said to be successful black man or woman. It may not be till after they are dead or that some of us don’t realize the cowardice our supposed heroes have in that they speak what needs to be spoken to keep their lifestyle.
With this said I feel until the majority of us gain a better balance we will debate the N word [with or without the ER or A] for years to come. The way I feel about it may change over time but as of now I feel the N word with an A is a hip hop community thing that should be kept as that. I don’t feel it needs to be said during intellectual conversations in either forms. Just like any curse word when a black person uses it, it is meant to be funny or not taken too seriously unless it deals with anger or violence. I do feel we need to examine if we are subconsciously laughing at ourselves.
Lastly, sometimes white people use it because they are seeing what they can get a way with, or feel we should be fair even as the original label wasn’t fair…I could go on. Some whites tend to be focused on now but now cannot happen until we know where we came from, so there’s no moving on or getting over what we have yet to understand.